Pain during intercourse is more common than you might think. This article is going to talk about the pains of women. It has a medical name, dyspareunia. Overview of the causes and support in order to redo somersaults a moment 100% pleasure!
Preliminary question: are you excited during sex? It seems basic, but if you are not enough, you do not lubricate and the report is inevitably unpleasant because the friction of the penis irritates the mucous membrane which is too dry.
If you are, then read on …
It is important to know if they have always existed or if they have occurred recently. The intensity and type of pain (burns, crushing, throbbing tension, …) are important to specify. Then, they are divided into two categories: superficial pain, at the level of the opening of the vagina when the partner introduces his penis, or deep dyspareunia, located deeper in the vagina.
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Roughly speaking, if the pain does not repeat itself or if it occurs in only one sexual position, there is no rush. You can tell your doctor when you see it. On the other hand, if it is regular and disturbs your sexuality, then I advise you to consult. Quite simply because chronic pain has some peculiarities: it is not “natural” during sex so it decreases lubrication, which increases the painful sensation. It’s a vicious circle! In addition, the brain registers it and you anticipate it when you have a new report: suddenly, you are less excited and you lubricate less. Which increases the pain. It is for this reason that it is best to consult in order to determine its origin, to treat it, and to break the vicious circle.
Superficial pain, the causes
Vaginal toilets, with the shower, are to be avoided: they disturb the vaginal flora, dry out the vagina, it’s a disaster! Ditto for tampons outside the rules which terribly dry the mucous membranes.
There are already infections: mycosis, papillomavirus, … which may be accompanied by other signs (abnormal discharge, itching, redness of the vulva, …). If you’ve had an episiotomy, the scar may still be painful – the pain is located there. A hormonal deficiency, generating vaginal dryness, can also make intercourse painful (typically during menopause). Burns localized to the vulva and/or perineum are sometimes suggestive of pudendal neuralgia.
Dermatological diseases (such as lichen sclerosus or planus, Bowen’s disease) also cause it. A malformation of the hymen, which is called a bridle, makes the intromission of the penis trying, the pain is present since the beginning of the intercourse in this case.
Deep pains, the origins
Endometriosis, a disease in which the lining of the uterus grows in other areas, often causes pain during intercourse, especially during menstruation.
Other causes: infection of the tubes, cervix or endometrium (the lining of the uterus) or their after-effects, adhesions, a cyst in an ovary, a fibroid in the uterus.
Masters and Allen syndrome, explained by the tearing of a ligament during childbirth, causes after childbirth and can cause pain during intercourse because the uterus is too mobile.
When the pain repeats, talking to your gynecologist or a sexologist is necessary, ideally as soon as possible to prevent the suffering from becoming chronic. If a physical cause has been found, its treatment, whether drug or surgical, will improve the situation.
Psychological support may be necessary to manage the multiple repercussions of chronic pain, with a psychologist or doctor sexologist. Cognitive-behavioral therapies and relaxation techniques are interesting.
Talk to your partner about the impacts of pain on your body (with the decrease in lubrication) and on your psyche (with the natural apprehension of penetration). The emotions that are associated with the report have become the anguish of suffering, fueled by the memory of past pain and the anticipation of the one to come. You will have to relearn how to free yourself from negative emotions and experience the embrace as a moment of pleasure.
Use a water-based lubricant to soften the penetration (if it is compatible with the treatment time). Extend the time for foreplay, focus on eroticism, massages, blowjobs and cunnilingus. Give yourself time to forget the reflexes associated with pain and you will see, little by little, the carefree and light pleasure return under the duvet (or elsewhere!).