There are complaints that can be embarrassing: For example, if women experience pain during sex, have forgotten the tampon in their vagina, or feel itchy there, many of them find it difficult to talk about it. Even in conversation with the gynecologist, who has to remain silent to third parties. To defuse the dilemma: Here are the most common taboo questions that are not always directly addressed in the doctor’s office. And as you can see, the answers to that are often surprisingly innocuous.
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Why do I regularly have pain during sex?
When it comes to sex, lust, passion and satisfaction come first. If it hurts instead, it should be urgently clarified by a gynecologist. In many cases, bacterial infections such as chlamydia and gonococci (gonorrhea) or changes in hormone levels are among the triggers of pain during sex. If a changed hormone level triggered the symptoms, this may have been caused by certain contraceptives or it may be related to body weight. Dry mucous membranes or endometriosis can also be reasons for pain during sex.
If the gynecologist cannot diagnose the physical causes of the pain during sex, psychological factors should also be clarified. In particular, anxiety disorders, bad previous experiences with sex or self-esteem disorders can lead to cramping of the vaginal muscles, for example, which narrows the vaginal entrance. It makes sex painful. Incidentally, so-called vaginismus can also be triggered by relationship problems or stress in the family.
Is it dangerous if I forget the tampon?
If a tampon stays in the vagina too long, toxic substances can form. But do not worry, only very rarely does this lead to toxic shock syndrome (TSS), which is also known colloquially as tampon disease. Sudden fever, chills, circulatory problems up to fainting, nausea and vomiting are the symptoms. However, as long as they fail, the chances are good that you have stayed healthy.
The shock syndrome is not caused by the forgotten tampon, but by so-called Staphylococcus aureus bacteria, which get into the vagina when the tampon is inserted and which multiply easily in the absorbent material of the tampon. To prevent tampon sickness, you should change your tampon regularly after twelve hours at the latest or as stated in the package description.
I have a heavy discharge. Is that normal?
Increased discharge can have several causes. For example, it occurs after a partner changes because the vaginal flora has to adjust to the bacteria of the new partner. Likewise, more frequent sex or pregnancy can lead to a strong discharge, because the vagina is then supplied with more blood.
The discharge only becomes a case for the gynecologist if you have persistently excessive discharge and the discharge is brownish or greenish in color. Then, for example, a forgotten tampon could be the cause, a sexually transmitted disease or you may suffer from vaginal thrush.
I feel an itch in my vagina, Is that bad?
If the vagina itches or burns, this usually indicates an inflammatory infection, for example with a yeast infection. The vaginal flora is then often out of whack, the defenses succumb to bacteria, fungi or parasites. However, underlying diseases such as diabetes mellitus, skin diseases or precancerous stages can also cause itching.
However, if the itching occurs very intensely or constantly, as well as in connection with other symptoms, such as discharge, you should urgently have the symptoms clarified by a doctor.
Itching in the vagina can also be caused by overprotective care or incorrect clothing. Avoid frequent washing of the vagina, i.e. no more than once a day. Ideally, you should not use any perfumed soaps or deodorants. Tampons, sanitary towels or panty liners should only be worn during menstruation. In addition, if itching in the vagina, you should avoid using synthetic fiber textiles, especially swimsuits or underwear, and instead use the cotton laundry.
My vagina has a strange smell, What’s this?
Basically every genital, regardless of whether it is a vagina or a penis, has its own smell that does not go away even with daily hygiene. Even after sexual intercourse, there is a typical smell in the vagina, which comes from sweat, vaginal secretions, or sperm.
However, a particularly pungent or fishy odor can indicate a bacterial infection. For example, an atypical reproduction of the Gardnerella bacterium, which is present in small numbers in the intestinal and vaginal flora, can trigger such an infection. The gynecologist can treat such an infection with antibiotics.
Why am I suddenly not in the mood for sex?
Sexual aversion in women is often associated with a change in the endocrine system. This can affect very different hormones and have very different causes. So it is not necessarily the partner or the relationship, although psychological factors, physical or mental stress or illnesses often play a role. However, hormonal contraceptives such as the pill, the hormone ring, the hormone coil, the three-month injection or the hormone implant can also be the cause of sexual aversion. The gynecologist can clarify with you whether you should try alternative contraceptives.
Why can’t I get a vaginal orgasm during sex?
Basically, only about 20 to 30 percent of all women during sexual intercourse with their partner achieve orgasm through pure penetration. Most women only experience their sexual climax through additional clitoral stimulation. Talk to your partner about if you miss the vaginal orgasm during sex.
There are different ways to make love play to your satisfaction: Either you lend a hand, leave it to your partner or you try out a suitable sex toy. Certain positions during sex can also promote vaginal orgasm.
Why you can talk to your gynecologist about anything
Like all medical professionals, gynecologists are subject to statutory confidentiality and are not allowed to give any third party information about the content of the doctor’s consultation, i.e. about complaints, the diagnosed diagnosis or the recommended therapy without your consent. It is also their job to help you with shame-ridden topics.
There is therefore no reason to hide something from a doctor, provided that it only puts an unnecessary strain on yourself and your health.
What to do if you don’t trust your gynecologist
However, if you fail to develop a trusting doctor-patient relationship with your gynecologist or if you fail to discuss issues of shame with your gynecologist, then in some cases a change of doctor should be considered in order to find a better doctor in the future – Build patient relationships.